Issues dating widower
Perhaps some of them were even a little nuts before they were widowed (we are changed by our losses... I also think that widowers with children still at home (most of the widowers I know fall in this category) are a bit more justified in hanging on to "stuff" from their past lives and sharing family (like in-laws) and memories a bit more actively.
This is a giant set of exceptions that negates, for me, a lot of Abel's advice.
As though marrying again somehow blotted out the dead wife.
One of our brides told us that when her best friend died of cancer at a young age, she was surprised at how soon her friend's husband had gotten seriously involved with another woman.
"At first I was angry and felt it was disrespectful of his dead wife.
I wasn’t sure that was a combination I wanted to take on, but my sister, who had my login details so she could snoop around on my behalf, thought that the fact that Tim had favourited my profile and he looked nice was enough to “give him a try”.
I have always dreamed of the the man that would steal my heart and this man is definitely "it" for me : O) I told him once that he is NOTHING that I ever expected, but EVERYTHING that I'd ever dreamed of and I am excited about our future together.
Having never been married, this is all new and exciting to me.
In the first emails Tim and I sent each other we mentioned previous relationships – my failed marriage and his wife’s death at 36 from breast cancer – but only in a fact-finding kind of way.
And when we met over a pint in a Hampshire pub, we touched on those subjects again but agreed they weren’t right for a first date.
As things are becoming more serious, we have begun to talk about marriage.